Start Using Your Show Towels
As my mother got older, she became more and more invested in reducing the amount of stuff she lived with. Every time I went to visit her, she would nag the hell out of me until I agreed to clean out yet another space. I kept insisting that eventually she would be sitting on a crate in her empty house. She would look at me with knowing eyes and utter her famous phrase “You’ll see!”
I often got upset by her alluding to the fact that someday I would be walking in her shoes, especially since youth predicates much of its behavior on the illusion that we are immortal. I now find myself engaging in some of my mothers’ behavior. I have a need to clean out spaces and rid myself of stuff that I don’t use.
When I was younger, I had a need to keep my home and its contents looking as if they were forever new. Everything was in place and my family had to treat their surroundings as if they were docents in a museum. I may have even had some velvet ropes to complete the look.
When I got divorced and faced the ensuing difficulties of being a single parent, I found that it became harder and harder to maintain my patterns of perfectionism. Fatigue could be the new cure for trying to be perfect. Over the years I have rid myself of the many decorative pillows I had strewn on my bed. It would take me at least ten minutes to take them all off, and turn down the bed. What a ridiculous waste of energy!
Towels are no longer “show towels.” but ones that everyone uses. I know now that no one who visits my home knows the difference. And if they do, they probably need medication.
Now, I don’t need to display everything I own for those who visit. I realize that too much of a good thing really is too much”. Sometimes I even hear my mother’s voice. I now understand why she wanted to simplify her life. It was her way of not expending energy on things that didn’t matter so she could spend time on things that did. Who knows I just might end up in an empty room sitting on a crate staring at my navel! I just hope it reclines and has a foot rest.
Lighten Up Your Week:
This week: Simplify, Simplify, Simplify.
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